Gaslighting is emotional abuse. It makes someone question their sanity. This often happens in marriages. Men may feel accused of things they didn’t do. Simple actions get twisted into crimes.
These false accusations damage a man’s self-esteem. They change how power works in the relationship. Clear talking and respect are key. They help fix these issues.
Examples include “MARRIED WHILE MALE” and “DISAGREEING WITH WIFE.” Others are “NOT MAKING ENOUGH MONEY” or “FAILURE TO FIX EVERYTHING.” These highlight how normal behavior is seen as wrong. It’s a twisted view of daily actions.
The Gaslighting Wife
Gaslighting is emotional abuse aimed at making someone question their reality to gain control. In marriages, husbands often feel wrongfully accused of “crimes” by their wives. This occurs when an accusing wife wrongfully labels her husband’s harmless actions as negative, causing him to doubt himself.
Husbands may end up apologizing for actions that are not actually damaging. They might be wrongfully accused of ignoring or being thoughtless, even when the issue is mutual miscommunication.
Such manipulation deeply affects the husband, undermining his confidence and perception of reality. He starts to question his own decisions, fearing he is always in the wrong. This not only weakens his self-esteem but also shifts relationship control to the gaslighting wife, who becomes the narrative’s author.
Male-Only Crimes List
You are all undoubtedly familiar with various abbreviations used by law enforcement and courts to designate certain crimes. Commonly seen terms are:
- DUI – Driving under the influence
- MIP – Minor in possession of alcohol
- VNCO – Violation of No-contact order
Some terms have also been coined by certain groups to designate non-crimes where police often seem to target minorities, such as:
- DWB – Driving While Black
Well, we’ve uncovered a series of heretofore unknown crimes and their abbreviations, which police use only against men in domestic situations.
Unbeknown to most men, they are committing “crimes” every day in their dealings with their wives or significant others. All the wife has to do is call 911, report the misbehavior, and the man will be summarily tossed out the door.
False crimes by men
As a public service, to help better prepare you for what may happen to you at any time, we offer the following formerly classified offenses, for which you may get in trouble at home.
- MWM – MARRIED WHILE MALE
- PWM – PARENTING WHILE MALE
- FTYW – FAILURE TO YIELD TO WIFE
- WOLL – WEIGHT OVER LEGAL LIMIT
- WOLL – BB WEIGHT OVER LEGAL LIMIT WITH BEER-BELLY ENHANCEMENT
- HTR – HOGGING THE REMOTE
- DWW – DISAGREEING WITH WIFE
- MIPM – MALE IN POSSESSION OF A MIND
- OIJ – OBSTRUCTION OF INJUSTICE
- RFA – RESISTING FALSE ACCUSATIONS
- RDVII – RESISTING DV INDUSTRY INDOCTRINATION (When sent to DV Perp Treatment Re-education)
- MID – MALE IN DENIAL (OF BEING AN ABUSER)
- ESR – ELUDING SOLE RESPONSIBILITY (FOR MARITAL PROBLEMS)
- AFS – ASKING FOR SEX
- SNS – SAYING NO TO SEX
- PWHSWMM – PROTESTING WIFE HAVING SEX WITH MAIL MAN
- VNCWPO – VIOLATION OF NO-CONTACT WITHOUT PERMISSION ORDER
- WTMH – WORKING TOO MANY HOURS
- NMEM – NOT MAKING ENOUGH MONEY
- ATSWFSRMOLT – ATTEMPTING TO STOP WIFE FROM SPENDING RENT MONEY ON LOTTO TICKETS
Misdemeanors by the married male
Here are some more “offenses” that might be added to the list, showing that men can never win and are susceptible to false allegations no matter what they do:
- NSFC – NOT SHARING FINANCIAL CONTROL: When a man is accused of not providing his partner with equal access to or control over the household finances, whether or not it’s a mutual decision.
- FTFL – FAILURE TO FIX EVERYTHING: For the times when a man is expected to repair anything that breaks in the household, regardless of his actual skills or the existence of warranties.
- DILS – DOMINANCE IN LOGICAL SOLUTIONS: Occurs when a man’s practical solutions to problems are seen as dismissive of emotional considerations.
- NECW – NOT ENOUGH CHORES WEEKLY: When the amount of household chores a man does is deemed insufficient, regardless of work schedules or arrangements.
- LIC – LAUGHING INAPPROPRIATELY AT COMEDIES: When a man finds humor in something his partner does not, leading to accusations of insensitivity.
- PWWP – POSTING WITHOUT WIFE’S PERMISSION: This “crime” happens when a man shares content on social media without consulting his partner, leading to potential domestic discord.
- ECDD – EXCESSIVE CONTACT WITH DORKY DUDES: When a man spends what is deemed too much time with his friends from the perspective of his partner, leading to accusations of neglect.
- ABVS – AVOIDING BINGE-WATCHING SESSIONS: For when a man opts out of yet another marathon viewing of his partner’s favorite TV show, leading to accusations of lack of interest or companionship.
Each of these satirical “crimes” highlights the often-complex dynamics of domestic relationships. Expectations and communications often mismatch, leading to conflict.
Related: How to Defend Yourself Against False Accusations
Other Forms of Gaslighting By Wives
Gaslighting goes beyond obvious accusations. It can be subtle and deeply impactful. Here are types with examples:
- Emotional Withholding. Ignoring affection requests. Example: A wife may refuse to acknowledge her husband’s attempts at intimacy, making him question his appeal.
- Selective Memory. Pretending to forget contributions. Example: A wife may “forget” her husband planned a special dinner, suggesting he never does anything thoughtful.
- Shifting Goalposts. Changing what’s good enough. Example: After a husband cleans the house, his wife insists it’s still not clean, making him feel his efforts are futile.
- Constant Criticism. Finding fault in everything. Example: A wife criticizes how her husband dresses, talks, or even eats, leading him to doubt his own choices.
Each type chips away at a husband’s confidence. They make him question his value and actions. This cycle damages trust and communication.
The bottom line is that we need mutual respect, understanding, and communication to handle the challenges of cohabitation and partnership.